Styling with men’s loafers.

Finally! I took the leap of pairing men’s loafers with a dress under a men’s shirt. You see, I envy ladies who can pull an androgyny look because I like it when the standard feminine look can be easily styled with masculine pieces. To me the end result looks unique with a hint of intrigue.

I love dressing up no matter the occassion or none occassion. For instance, this is my outfit as I went grocery shopping. I shop in long sleeves to keep me comfortable especially as I shop at the frozen section.

I have to admit, it took awhile for me to finally have the courage to pair men’s loafers with something that is not a pair of pants/shorts. For some reason, I finally did it! Its funny because I felt liberated because I pushed myself from my comfort zone.

Now its only a matter of time when I will finally pair men’s loafers with maxi dresses and/or summer dresses. Hmmmmm?20190101_154724

Baby steps love, baby steps…

“Manly” look…

I noticed how the Androgynous look has always been in. When I was young going through fashion magazines, I wasn’t taken by it since I didn’t understand or see the beauty behind it, but now with shows such as Next Top Model and YouTube videos of runway shows I can finally appreciate the Androgyny look.

What I love is the flexibility behind the look and the way a female body can be bold and daring within a masculine attire but still be beautiful. The curves might be hidden by boxy shoulders or straight edged unflattering linear seams, but how the person carries themselves makes or breaks the entire look altogether. If you seem to be uncomfortable through your body language and/or stance, it only negates from your outfit. Therefore, finding confidence in yourself is crucial.

Girl, if you need to wear lingerie underneath your “manly” uniform/attire to find your confidence, go for it!

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What is your niche wear?

I had to consider this thought for awhile since my niche wear requires the act of not wearing a part of clothing. To most women its the one of the first things that comes off after a hard days work, and I’m not referring to shoes ranging from heels to combat boots.

Instead I’m referring to a small piece of clothing that evokes both a love and hate relationship among women…its none other than the restricting confines of a bra.

As a teen the wearing of a bra was my right of passage to womanhood. I could not wait to finally wear a pair that I looked forward to that day. Once I did, I was so ecstatic that I religiously wore one that it soon became a habit.

After years of bra wearing, I savor the times when I don’t have to specially inside the house. Eventually I was bold enough not to wear it with my outfits. At first, I was so self conscious of getting found out during my none wearing bra out in public that I end up second guessing myself, but eventually I got over it. Finally I’m enjoying the fact of not being top heavy because I can get away with it pretty easy. 20181020_152601

…and so they say, free the Ta-tas!

 

 

 

 

How not to look “costumey”?!?

I heard such a phrase being used from Youtube, often from thrifters which is one of my favorite pastimes. At times I see a piece which is costumey but if styled differently can be normalized. For instance, Halloween costumes… I know it sounds like a far stretch specially when it comes to the raunchy outfits or over the top props, but I’m more leaning towards the themed pant suits and quirky nylons. As long as it meets ones comfort level then I say why not? I wore a wig one time for a casual night out to my favorite bar and the bartender didn’t recognise me. Unfortunately due to the humidity out here I seldom wear a wig nowadays since it gets too hot.

Bottom line is, its on the eye of the beholder. One piece or an outfit might be costumey for one but it might not be for another. Therefore, one’s norm isn’t exactly the same as the next person. Also, what we consider weird might be someone else’s normal.

In the end, its not the matter of being costumey its more of pushing the boundary of what’s considered “normal.”

I look “swole.”

“I look swole,” this came from a co-worker who is used to working out with clients who he himself participated in body sculpting competitions. A part of me was flattered, yet a part of me got worried because do I really look different?!? I mean ever since I’ve been diligently lifting weights for over a month now, I do look forward to the burn and avoid cardio exercises in preference of lifting instead. Mind you, I do see results when I flex during workout sessions but actually getting recognized for my results only amp’d me to lift even harder. Now I have to admit that its easier for me to lift and carry boxes or move huge items by myself, but what surprised me was it was easier for me to power through some cardio in short distances; thanks to various leg workouts. After all this time, I thought lifting will slow you down but I experienced the opposite.

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Sadly, I still need to curb my eating habits and this includes my alcohol intake since my midsection needs a lot of trimming, which I know can be quickly trimmed with cardio. Therefore, balancing my weight lifting to incorporate some cardio for 30 minutes at least 3 times a week is a must. In that way not only would “I look swole” but I would be all the way trimmed out and fast too!

 

 

My pantsuit choice for a themed holiday party.

Alright, I raved about pantsuit wear so I decided to check out the local retail store (men’s wear section) for a checkered pantsuit. It worked out well since it goes with this year’s holiday theme of “The Great Gatsby.” I was drawn to the checkered look because I saw one online and it looked amazing. Unfortunately, my search started with numerous online sites that either do not ship to my location or I could not get a response when asked for more details especially when I don’t have the luxury to try it on. Besides, I don’t want to end up second guessing myself and hope for the best.

Fortunately, I managed to find one locally. Its not the checkered look I was aiming for but its a pantsuit that I cannot wait to showcase. What drew me to this suit was first it was on sale and you know by now that I’m not shy when it comes to bargains. Second it was red with enough pattern to make it more interesting instead of plain boring. Thankfully, I was lucky enough to have found the jacket in small with a matching 32W size pants.

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Another reason why I ignore the size because what matters most is the fit and comfort. Therefore, I plead to girls out there to not get bothered if your size increases or continue to increase. Vendors have their ways of sizing so try not to get bothered by a number.

Close up on the funky pattern.

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Overall, its how you carry yourself that matters. If what you wear brings confidence in you, it should not matter if you wear a sizeable pantsuit or not because at the end of the day, you better strut it girl!

 

Styling men’s cargo shorts/pants…

Cargo shorts or pants is such a staple in men’s wear that I just started incorporating it as part of my wardrobe. Typical girl/women’s fashion would not dare get caught wearing cargos but why not? It is such a practical pair to have, first of because of its pockets! I love the way how versatile a pair of cargos can carry not only a wallet but tools as well. Granted, I do not have hobbies that require tool carrying but the fact of having readily available pockets is always a great option to have. This means if I do not have to carry a purse, that’s a bonus for me.

Second, cargo shorts come in a variety of colors and designs that should make it more appealing to wear no matter ones gender. I for one own a pair of cargo shorts with camouflage in woodland pattern. I love styling it with a pair of black booties and a simple top. For accessories, I often pair it with silver hooped earrings and finished off with a thin oversized sweater jacket that hits just above my knee. In this way the cargo shorts merely peeks out every time I walk.

 

Other times, I do wear the cargo shorts in plain site as a statement piece with a simple top on a pair of either loafers or slides. Sometimes, yours truly likes to dress up in a more rugged look but only with a hint of femininity thanks to accessories such as statement earrings, bold sunglasses with a pop of red lipstick!

Overall, cargo shorts/pants is a unique piece for girls to wear that I enjoy pushing the envelope. For instance, cargos does not have to be casual, you can help glamorize it with a pair of heels topped with a fancy looking top. Of course accessorize as necessary, and if you want to push it even further add a surprise teaser by spritzing on a men’s fragrance. Bold move, bold statement.

You’re welcome!