I have this black sleeveless body hugging dress that accentuates every fold I have. On top of that it has a risque criss-cross opening as a bodice, only cute for someone folded and curvier in the right places…if you know what I mean.
Why do I own one then? Well, I can’t remember but if I were to guess, I bought it because it happened to be on sale.
…so I’m stuck with it and I’m determined to use it for what its worth even if it means covering up!
My go-to covering is a long sleeve men’s shirt of any color, so I was able to wear this dress with different patterned shirts from neutral to bold colors.
In the end, covering up made me more comfortable and bold because I know underneath I’m wearing a one sexy number!
I had to throw away a beautiful color blocked wrap all because of a frayed portion caused by a small snag. Sure, I knowingly bought a piece that is mass produced for the fraction of the price. ….so do I admit it? Yes…yet again, I’ve been a willing victim of fast fashion.
How? It started with the sale, the hype and the “savings.” All this time, I knew the material is cheaply made just to meet my frugality fix even when I know its a matter of time until it gets damaged.
Sure enough after a few wash and wear, it finally did. The damaged material started small until it was unbearable noticeable.
My frugality kicked it by thinking, “I could patch it up” but the reality of the sheer material would only get worse even when patched.
Yet again, frugality kicked in by thinking, “I should keep it to copy the pattern” but I know all too well that I won’t make time to sew garments.
My thought process above are my internal battles to justify my spending habits. Overall even though I’m proud to say I’m cheap but in the end, its costing me more by having to pay replacements or tailored maintenance.
In the end, my thought process of limiting frugality to being “cheap” is wrong. I think it should be more towards “is it worth it” spending more for quality than quantity.
If that is the case, acknowledging is one thing but application is another.
I recently read an article about donating unwanted beauty and skin care products. As someone who’s been trying to control and calm down my skin from breakouts, I have a dilema of having unwanted products. My recent haul is with “Uth” from the company Mannatech.
Driven by my desperation of having clear skin I was consistent with any product, unfortunately it has not been working on my skin so I stopped it altogether. Now I have unused products that I would rather give away instead of throwing it. Which brings me back to the article I read. It listed several addresses to ship products, some would even accept pre-loved products.
I was touched by their cause because some are to support abused women who are trying to get their lifes back on track. After some thought, I was considering donating my “Uth” haul that is, until I asked my mom.
Knowing her, anything that is free she’ll take and I don’t blame her. I would have done the same. At least it saves me from having to store unwanted products when it could be useful to my mom.
Thanks mom! Consider it an early Mother’s Day gift.
Finally! I took the leap of pairing men’s loafers with a dress under a men’s shirt. You see, I envy ladies who can pull an androgyny look because I like it when the standard feminine look can be easily styled with masculine pieces. To me the end result looks unique with a hint of intrigue.
I love dressing up no matter the occassion or none occassion. For instance, this is my outfit as I went grocery shopping. I shop in long sleeves to keep me comfortable especially as I shop at the frozen section.
I have to admit, it took awhile for me to finally have the courage to pair men’s loafers with something that is not a pair of pants/shorts. For some reason, I finally did it! Its funny because I felt liberated because I pushed myself from my comfort zone.
Now its only a matter of time when I will finally pair men’s loafers with maxi dresses and/or summer dresses. Hmmmmm?
Baby steps love, baby steps…
Christmas is often advertised and popularized in cold related weather with Santa, snowman, Christmas trees, cozying up on warm beverages and bundling up for a “winter wonderland.”
Oddly enough, I longed to be in the cold during Christmas especially now of having celebrating it in a tropical island for the past 3 years now. It just doesn’t feel “Christmas” without the cold.
Truthfully, I longed wearing my grey wool men’s jacket, which I got compliments after being mistakenly thought of as a “peacoat.” I loved wearing my cashmere scarf or beanie, not to mention a pair of heavy duty boots! I treated gloves and earmuffs as my optional accessories only, since I loved wrapping my scarf as a head wrap making sure my ears were covered.
This year, I celebrated Christmas on a tropical island. To me it was not “Christmassy enough,” actually it scewed my ideal “winter wonderland” celebration. Its like sunbathing when I already have a tanned complection. To me it doesn’t add up but I ended up sunbathing anyway.
Now when it comes to what I consider “sunbathing,” its more deceitful since it consisted of me covered up in black booty shorts, T-shirt and a baseball cap underneath the shade of a coconut tree. Thankfully, I did not bother wearing sunscreen and I was out by the beach for 5 hours. As if that helps me with my “tan.”
I’m sure your Christmas celebrations made more sense than mine.
Blame the holidays for the excess gain weight but I see it as an oppurtunity to change my perspective in wearing clothes too small for my current size. Its so easy to body shame myself for it but why spend more money on clothes when I can repurpose it to fit my new bod!
At first, I was thinking of donating or giving clothes away but I can’t help losing so much of my wardrobe that I since loved wearing. I tried making money from it by selling through the local flea market with little to no return so my next best option is repurposing. My first project was a medium sized denim jacket. I managed to squeeze myself in it which looked ill fitting especially on my arms so what was my solution, cut off the arms! With a pair of sharp scissors it was an easy fix.
I paired it with a black body suit, over a flowy skirt with custom made black cowboy boots. Donned on my go-to makeup routine as I finished it off with a pair of fun tassled earrings.
I’m off with my day.
‘Tis the season to workout for a reason.
Easier said than done! Like everyone else I make up excuses such as the weather being gloomy, I woke up too late or I’m too tired. Bottom line is: my only excuse should be when the gym is closed due to the holiday season.
Did I overcome my excuses? Not really, in fact my gym partner and I finally went today after 4 days of non-gym days. With more days being missed, the more creative the excuses. For instance, my gym partner worked late so we missed on going, I was not feeling well enough (maybe due to all the junk food I ate) so we missed out again, on and on the excuses went.
Sure, I could always work out on my own or why rely on the gym work hours when I can workout at home! I have a set of exercise bands and a workout CD from when I did the 21 Day Fix Challenge, in which I gained a pound! (I was told I gained muscle weight and not fat…..uhhhh, sure why not!)
Of course, I could just watch what I eat. Meaning, I would watch my food as I place it inside my mouth. (That’s my take of “watching what I eat.”)
So tell me, what excuses do you use?
My mom always said “Being natural is always the best form of beauty.” Well, no matter how much I agree with her my facial acne continues to affect my interactions with anyone I come in contact with. Especially at work where I am constantly engaging with junior and high ranking individuals. Unfortunately, everyday that goes by, my mom’s mantra slowly diminishes as I desperately find facial routines that match my skin type before resorting to makeup as my last resort.
Due to instant gratification, I eventually I was drawn to the quick fix of makeup but due to me being a novice at it. My last resort ended up in binge watching Youtube tutorial videos of makeup gurus and drag queens do their makeup. Craziness! …but it was entertaining and yes I was that desperate.
Thankfully my practical side kicked in because this is where I admitted that, I needed to get the help of a local beauty sales rep named Norma. She was bossy and knowledgeable yet patient enough to show me a basic makeup routine. She made sure of basing it on my skin’s needs. Overall, she basically took me under her wing and in small baby steps, slowly transform an ugly duckling to a fledling in training. Granted, it was time consuming and expensive but I’m sure it has paid itself off.
Thank you Ms. Norma!
Comfort is key when it comes to travelling. My go-to is your typical sweats and sneakers but depending on the weather would determine how comfortable I want to be.
For instance during cold weather; my staple would be a heavy coat, scarf or beanie, gloves, a long sleeve top, pants and comfortable shoes. At this point, I don’t bother with booties no matter the heel height because I like it to be close toed shoes, with no hassle of taking it off or putting it on.
In hot weather, less is more but since I get cold easy inside the airplane I wear a T-shirt, a pair of sweatpants, sneakers, and a light jacket.
To complete my travelling in comfort, I make sure I packed light with only the essentials. This includes a backpack as my carry-on. Inside it would have my pair of noise cancelling headphones for long flights, snacks, and a book just to name a few. I only bring a laptop when I need it for school.
The duration of my trip and purpose determines how many checked luggage I bring. For a two week stay due to training, I managed to pack one medium sized luggage. As a typical pack rat, I consider that an accomplishment!
Alright there are times when I just want to explore ways to make a statement not relying on clothes but with my accessories instead. Be it the jewelry, shoes, bags/purses with or without make-up. I get it, I’m one to push my own boundaries and so far its a handbag.
For the record, I did mention on a previous post of mine that I hate having to carry something like a body bag, purse, hand bag or hand candy. Whatever you want to call it, I need my hands free.
However, I feel that alone is more reason why I had to push against my laziness and comfort zone to finally carry one. I figured the only way I do it is if I carry something that is interesting, eye catching but practical at the same time.
Lo and behold, I found her. Meet Stella, my hand bag. She’s made of sequins and stitched embroidery. Even though “Pink Email” is quite obvious on her, I think Stella suits her well.
How about you, what is your go to statement and do you name your accessories too?